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My mother in law is just trying to regain her footing in life. Please bare with me while I share her story.

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My mother in law is just trying to regain her footing in life. Please bare with my while I share her story.

My mother-in-law, Amy, was previously disabled and unable to work. This was not a problem for her in the past because her husband provided for her and their young child (Ben, 8 y/o). My husband is a child from her previous marriage.

Her husband passed away in early 2017. After his passing, she uncovered many ugly truths about her husband’s spending habits. They had no savings and she was unable to make payments on their house. She was evicted two less than 30 days after his passing. With little to no money and no where to go, she moved in with a friend of hers a few states away. Me and my husband offered to have her move in with us, but she wanted start over somewhere new.

I suspect that Amy hasn’t hasn’t given herself a chance to grieve. She was extremely co-dependant in her marriage before her husband’s passing. She has been in one relationship after another, trying to conceal her pain. Dating one good-for-nothing guy after another. The current guy is the problem.

She started dating a younger guy, James, in mid 2018. He was very charming, he seemed to really care for Amy and her young son. They began having really bad arguments that continued to get nastier and nastier. Then in the midst of this… She gets pregnant. This sets James off and he starts to reveal his true nature. He’s a textbook example of a sociopath (I apologize to sociopaths that aren’t mean/evil or manipulative). Childish, no impulse control, lazy, malicious.

James has been emotionally tormenting Amy since he found out about the pregnancy. James likes to disappears and then send Amy a ton of texts about how she doesn’t support him, telling her she’s crazy, and giving detailed descriptions about how he cheats on her with all his ex’s. James even told Ben that he’ll no longer be a priority and that his new little sister will barely be related to him. James was constantly screaming at Amy and Ben, and he also threatened to have his lawyer father arrange for him to get full custody of the baby. Which is insanity because James can’t keep a job for more than a month. He keeps telling Amy that he’s contributing financially and that he’s taking care of them… So far he has given her $50… $50 in total.

Amy had faith in him, hoping that he could change. She just wanted to have a family and a sense of normalcy. My husband and I constantly pleaded with her to cut him out of her life, get a restraining order, and offered to have her move in with us, but she just procrastinated. She just called us hysterically crying every night.

When she constantly called us crying we would tell her to stay away from him, but a few days later she would call and talk about how he just left her apartment. When was in labor we asked her to keep James away from the hospital. She gives birth, sends us pictures of the baby, James is the one holding the baby in the pictures. She thought that James seeing the baby would make him change. Honestly it’s made it considerably worse. He was starting to keep his distance around the 8th month of her pregnancy. But after holding the baby he started the arguments and screaming again days later. His threats about taking the baby from Amy became more and more serious. Not because he wants a child, but just so he can control Amy and feel like he “won”.

We have finally convinced Amy to move in with us, for the sake of her children’s safety and for our collective mental health. Its gonna be hard because me and my husband are college students barely getting by with our own bills. But anything is better than continuing to watch Amy and the children suffer. So right now we’re all living in a tiny two bedroom house.

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Between the bills from her late husband, to the legal bills, travel/moving, the baby, and medical bills, its all just a little to much right now. Amy is going to try and find a job that accommodates her disability. I will continue to go to school full time and also look for a better paying job, and my husband who is also full time will also start taking extra EMT shifts…. I’m just trying to make this work… I’m trying muster up all the patience and strength that I can. I want Amy to be able to thrive here, stop dating terrible dudes, and see a therapist to help her process her grief and find her self-worth again. I want to have a healthy family dynamic again.

All names in the description of our situation have been changed. I’m not trying to have “James” and his lawyer father sue me.

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Uhura never had another name during the series. One of the fan writers wrote “Upenda” - which means “peace” in Swahili, I understand — not officially, but in some of their fan writings. And it sort of took hold. But when they were going to do the official history of Star Trek in a published book, the writer called Gene and asked him was “Uhura” her first name or her last name? Gene said, “Well, Nichelle and I never decided.” We always leaned towards it being her last name because it’s taken from the Swahili “uhuru” which means freedom. So it would sort of be like the same as “Freeman.” So he said, “You can make it her last name.” The writer said, “What about her first name? I’ve come up with one in Swahili. It’s Nyota.” Gene said, “I can’t give you that permission because Nichelle and I named her together, and she has rights to that, so you’ll have to call her and get her permission.” So he gave him my number, and he called me and I laughed and was delighted. He said, “I have a name and it’s Nyota.” I said, “That’s quite beautiful. What does it mean?” He said, “It means ‘star’.” I said, “You can have my permission!” So I have since said that her name is Nyota Upenda Uhura, which would mean a free-floating star: “star of freedom and peace”. I like that.—NICHELLE NICHOLS

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Happy Juneteenth

Anthony Greene, associate professor of African American Studies and sociology at the College of Charleston, explains the history of Juneteenth.
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What are the historical origins of Juneteenth?

As America prepares to celebrate its independence, many African Americans conjure up a little known, and often omitted, significant fact during this time – upon gaining its independence, black people remained enslaved (see Frederick Douglass’s essay What Does the 4th of July Mean to Negroes). As such, independence, as it is celebrated, has two distinct historical meanings.

To commemorate when enslavement was abolished, Americans inaccurately highlight the Emancipation Proclamation signed by Abraham Lincoln, which took effect on Jan. 1, 1863.  

However, Lincoln’s proclamation was issued only to Confederate states in areas that were liberated by the Union Army. It was not for the intent and purpose to abolish slavery as an institution. Slavery remained legal until 1865 when the 13th Amendment abolished slavery and “involuntary servitude.”

Despite its abolishment, the 250,000 enslaved Africans in Texas did not immediately learn of their freedom. Several accounts have been put forth to explain why there was a two-and-a-half-year delay in the news of emancipation to Slaves in the Lone Star State:

  • A messenger was murdered on his way to Texas with the news of freedom.
  • The news was purposely withheld by slave masters to maintain a labor force.
  • Slave owners wanted to generate one last cotton harvest.

The announcement of freedom to the enslaved population in Texas has become known as Juneteenth (also known as the Black 4th of July). It is the oldest known celebration commemorating the ending of slavery in the United States. 

This African-American holiday observes June 19, 1865, as the official day of independence and freedom for blacks in America. It is noted that June 19th is not the exact day blacks were freed, rather it’s the day they were told they were free.

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